Jaga Tepi Kain Sendiri.

Impressive ! Isn't she?. Bila first time aku tengok video of this 17 year old girl, I was like "whooooa" :O She is impressive! She speak fluent english. Bila first tengok, aku tak focus pun on what she is trying to say, aku lebih focus kepada her language, her english, her way of delivering the preach, her body language and blablabla and I was like "wah gila lah kau budak! Ni ambik MUET confirm band 6 ni" and yes, yes, yes, she amazed me! :O

I am not just impressed by the language she used, but also by the fact that she is just a 17 year old girl but she possess the mentality of an adult. I know this is something ordinary sebenarnya, but I don't know, there is something that attract me watching her video over and over. It is the message that she tried to convey in the video. The video is basically about dakwah, and harsh methods of people used in delivering their preach. 

These days, most people, they misused the terms of 'Jaga tepi kain sendiri'. Sebenarnya this term of Jaga kain tepi sendiri itu perlu. Tapi jaga tepi kain orang pun perlu. Okay macam ni lah, bagi korang senang faham. Ye, jaga tepi kain sendiri memang perlu. Tapi kalau tengok kain orang lain terkoyak rabak ke, or kain dia is falling off without she even notice, bukan ke kita wajib kena tegur? Kan? Well, sort of.

So, things like 'Kubur masing-masing' tak patut wujud sebenarnya. We are living in a community where everyone need each other. Kita tak boleh pentingkan diri and buat tak tahu je dengan apa yang berlaku sekeliling kita. There is no such thing like minding our own bussiness, kubur masing-masing, jaga tepi kain sendiri, so on and so forth. That is so rude and so mean to me. Katalah kalau  kita ternampak orang lain buat salah, buat something yang tak elok,as a very concerned human being, kita WAJIB tegur sebenarnya. Jangan takut menegur dan mencegah kemungkaran tak kira lah kalau kita lebih muda ke, kurang pengalaman,kurang sempurna or kurang pandai ke. Islam doesn't sets certain standards untuk kita tegur kekhilafan orang lain. If you are right, and the other person is wrong, you have the right to correct what is wrong. Age and other things are not all that matters.


Dalam hadis yang diriwayatkan oleh Aishah r.a. yang disebut oleh Ibnu Majah di dalam kitabnya bahawa Nabi s.a.w. bersabda yang bermaksud; "Suruhlah kamu kepada yang baik dan cegahlah kamu daripada kemungkaran, sebelum berlaku bahawa kamu berdoa, tetapi tidak diperkenankan kepada kamu." 

Dalam hadis sahih yang diriwayatkan oleh ulama-ulama hadis, antaranya Muslim, dan diriwayatkan oleh Abu Said al-Khudri r.a., sabda Rasululah s.a.w. yang bermaksud; "Sesiapa di kalangan kamu melihat perkara mungkar maka hendaklah dia mengubah dengan tangannya, sekiranya tidak mampu maka dengan lidahnya, sekiranya tidak mampu lagi maka dengan hatinya dan dengan yang demikian itu (dengan hati itu) adalah sedaif-daif iman." 

So, nampak? Mencegah kemungkaran itu wajib. If you have the power to stop someone from sinning, then you are ought to do so. Kalau tak mampu mencegah dengan kuasa, then gunakan lidah, that is advising. Kalau tak mampu nak menasihati , cegah lah dengan hati, iaitu dengan niat dan nawaitu, contoh macam membenci perkara mungkar dan menjauhkan diri daripada dosa tersebut. Simple, isn't it?


But, there is one thing that people should understand. Apa yang aku perasan most people can't tell the difference between criticising and insulting. It is okay to advise and to critics. But, critics with MANNER. Bukan main terjah je kritik orang guna ayat kasar, maki hamun,sumpah seranah. My dear friends, that is not a critic, that is more to an INSULT. And it is not okay to insult. It is never going to be okay if you insult people in purpose of correcting their mistakes. Kalau kita hina orang, then how can we expect that the person yang kita cuba nak nasihatkan tu akan dengar nasihat kita ?NO,THEY WONT. Instead of listening to our preach and change for good, we will just make them hate us even more. Be unique, be creative in delivering your preach. Harsh methods in giving advices WONT WORK at all.

So, kesimpulannya, kedua-duanya yang bagi nasihat dan terima nasihat should be positive. Yang bagi nasihat, you should have the knack of making your preach likeable to the one you addressed your advise to. Nak berdakwah kena ada caranya then only it would works. Tak boleh main sesuka hati terjah, kutuk, maki ,sumpah seranah dengan niat to correct other people. That is not CORRECTING, that is INSULTING. And kepada mereka yang menerima nasihat, nasihat aku, be positive and be open up. Jangan have that narrow mentality of 'Kubur masing-masing'. That is a conservative thinking of third-mentality people. Every people has the right to advice and correct what is wrong and should be fix. We are living in a world where we all need each other. Don't be a hard-headed person who resist in taking advices for the sake of your own good :)

‎Well, well, well, bak kata Ustaz Azhar Idrus:

"Kata kubur masing-masing,nanti mu mati sape nak pikul? Ke mu mati golek sendiri masuk kubur? Mu mati nanti kan orang yang pikul, tak ke menyusahkan orang juga? Kenapa jawab gitu? Samseng sungguh" 

By the way, I am not being offensive at all. This is a gentle reminder to everyone and a note to myself as well. Renung-renungkan.Bye ;)